5.2 Poems story

I met two interesting stories happened in BBS(Bulletin Board System)

BBS is a public website everyperson registered a username can post or command in this web, but only the administrators can delete any post. But inside-web emails can be sent between users.

There is such a BBS, that people post poems here. Gradually, there emerged two poets writting great poems. And it turned out they were two administrators. And it turned out they were a boy and a girl. These two people began to post more poems really fast. And when it reached extrem, the BBS was just like their love "back garden" Things changed until one day, the boy posted a sad poem, and following, the girl abdicated the administrator position. Some other day, the boy posted a announcement, approximately saying"////, I can recognize you whatever name you are under. From now on, you post, I delete". People discussed. At last, it was found these boy and girl met each other. And this is the end of the story.

There is anther BBS, just like the one above, poems BBS. And there were another "couple". The only difference was they were not administrators. They two continued to post for three years, during when many users gone and many come. Three years later, they met. It was a couple waiting three years. I don't know what happened but they quited this BBS at the same time. Some other day, someone posted saying he found them. It turned out they bulit their own BBS and that was their love "back garden". If the information in the web was ture, it was a beautiful girl with a not that hansome boy. And this is the end of the story.

They don't have direct self-disclosure (honesty, amount,intention), if any, it is in the poems. They don't have nonverbal cues, meanwhile they may don't have direct verbal cues. What they have are the poem lines, the indirect verbal cues. They present themselves through literature. One image the other through the poetic words. He (let me use a HE for example) just read the words and think what kind of people can write out a poem like this and put this portrait to the author. This can be true, but meanwhile, it can be totally wrong. Are they honest? They post poems expressing the feelings. But they don't express themselves directly. Are they intentional? At first, mabe not. But I think they are intentional later on. Are they valence? Maybe, through words. About amount? Maybe has some relation with the number of poems......They can imlpy many things through poems without any direct decriptions..........I find there is some problem between direct factors and indirect factors, I am confused of it.

And is there any deception in these two stories? I don't know, actually........It is very possible an exquisite poem is written by an ugly, short fat girl. After the two meet each other, the boy may feel being decepted. But is it deception actually? As the girl writes only poems, nothing else. You know, writting poems is self-feeling expression. So I don't think it is self-presentation manipulation nor selection, neither a deception. The wrong information one gets is justs the wrong results of one own images. But meanwhile, the other side may really have implications.

What are the differences between these stories? What leads to the different results? Is it time?